Four Wives

There was a man with four wives. He loved his fourth wife the most and took

a great care of her and gave her the best. He also loved his third wife

and always wanted to show her off to his friends. However, he was always

had a fear that she might runaway with some other man. He loved his second

wife too. Whenever he faced some problems, he always turned to his second

wife and she would always help him out. He did not love his first wife

though she loved him deeply, was very loyal to him and took great care of

him. One day the man fell very ill and knew that he is going to die soon.

He told himself, "I have four wives with me. I will take one of them along

with me when I die to keep company in my death."

Thus, he asked the fourth wife to die along with him and keep company. "No

way!" she replied and walked away without another word.

He asked his third wife.She said "Life is so good over here. I'm going to

remarry when you die".

He then asked his second wife. She said "I'm Sorry. I can't help you this

time around. At the most I can only accompany you til your grave."

By now his heart sank and turned cold.

Then a voice called out: "I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter

where you go." the man looked up and there was his first wife. She was so

skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the

man said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!"

Actually, we all have four wives in our lives.

a. The fourth wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we

lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when w die.

b. The third wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they

go to others.

c. the second wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they

had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is

up to the grave.

d. the first wife is the our soul, neglected in our pursuit of material

wealth and pleasure. It is actually the only thing that

follows us wherever we go.

10 Keys to Happier Living

Ten Keys to Happier Living are based on a review of the latest research from psychology and related fields. Everyone's path to happiness is different, but the evidence suggests these Ten Keys consistently tend to have a positive impact on people's happiness and well-being.

 

The first five keys (GREAT) are about how we interact with the outside world in our daily activities. They are based on the Five Ways to Wellbeing developed by nef as part of the Foresight Project. The second five keys (DREAM) come from inside us and depend on our attitude to life.

Do things for others Caring about others is fundamental to our happiness. Helping other people is not only good for them and a great thing to do, it also makes us happier and healthier too. Giving also creates stronger connections between people and helps to build a happier society for everyone. And it's not all about money - we can also give our time, ideas and energy. So if you want to feel good, do good!

Connect with people Relationships are the most important overall contributor to happiness. People with strong and broad social relationships are happier, healthier and live longer. Close relationships with family and friends provide love, meaning, support and increase our feelings of self worth. Broader networks bring a sense of belonging. So taking action to strengthen our relationships and create new connections is essential for happiness.

Take care of your body Our body and our mind are connected. Being active makes us happier as well as being good for our physical health. It instantly improves our mood and can even lift us out of a depression. We don't all need to run marathons - there are simple things we can all do to be more active each day. We can also boost our well-being by unplugging from technology, getting outside and making sure we get enough sleep!

Notice the world around Ever felt there must be more to life? Well good news, there is! And it's right here in front of us. We just need to stop and take notice. Learning to be more mindful and aware can do wonders for our well-being in all areas of life - like our walk to work, the way we eat or our relationships. It helps us get in tune with our feelings and stops us dwelling on the past or worrying about the future - so we get more out of the day-to-day.

Keep learning new things Learning affects our well-being in lots of positive ways. It exposes us to new ideas and helps us stay curious and engaged. It also gives us a sense of accomplishment and helps boost our self-confidence and resilience. There are many ways to learn new things - not just through formal qualifications. We can share a skill with friends, join a club, learn to sing, play a new sport and so much more.

 

 

Have goals to look forward to Feeling good about the future is important for our happiness. We all need goals to motivate us and these need to be challenging enough to excite us, but also achievable. If we try to attempt the impossible this brings unnecessary stress. Choosing ambitious but realistic goals gives our lives direction and brings a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction when we achieve them.

Find ways to bounce back All of us have times of stress, loss, failure or trauma in our lives. But how we respond to these has a big impact on our well-being. We often cannot choose what happens to us, but we can choose our own attitude to what happens. In practice it's not always easy, but one of the most exciting findings from recent research is that resilience, like many other life skills, can be learned.

Take a positive approach Positive emotions - like joy, gratitude, contentment, inspiration, and pride - are not just great at the time. Recent research shows that regularly experiencing them creates an 'upward spiral', helping to build our resources. So although we need to be realistic about life's ups and downs, it helps to focus on the good aspects of any situation - the glass half full rather than the glass half empty.

Be comfortable with who you are No-one's perfect. But so often we compare our insides to other people's outsides. Dwelling on our flaws - what we're not rather than what we've got - makes it much harder to be happy. Learning to accept ourselves, warts and all, and being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong, increases our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well-being. It also helps us accept others as they are.

Be part of something bigger People who have meaning and purpose in their lives are happier, feel more in control and get more out of what they do. They also experience less stress, anxiety and depression. But where do we find 'meaning and purpose'? It might be our religious faith, being a parent or doing a job that makes a difference. The answers vary for each of us but they all involve being connected to something bigger than ourselves.

Sardar Doctor

A Sardar Doctor opened a clinic   wrote outside the clinic:   "Any treatment in Rs.100.  If we can't treat, will pay you back  Rs.200."   A Pathan comes with the intent of fraud and to get 200   He says to the Doctor:  "I can't feel any taste on my tongue..." Doctor asks the Nurse to put few drops of medicine from  box no 22.   After that the Pathan shouts:  "Oh my God its very Bitter." The doctor says congratulations  your sense of taste is back now. The Pathan was angry as he lost Rs.100.   After 2 weeks Pathan comes back again this time  he thinks to get back his previous 100 too.   Pathan: "Doctor I have lost my memory." Doctor: "Nurse! please put some drops of medicine from  Box no 22 on his tongue."   Pathan: "Wait doctor but that medicine is for sense of taste."  Doctor: "Congratulations your memory is back."   Moral: Never try to cheat a sardar Doctor

Common Sense

A king was looking for a suitable candidate for the post of prime minister.After several tests, three people were shortlisted. The next day was the final test.

There was a rumor and questions were out prior to exam that the king had a magic lock which can be opened only with great skill and knowledge. And whoever unlocked it, would be the prime minister.

Hearing the rumor, two of the selected candidates acquired a lot of books on locks. They spent the whole night going through the mathematical equations relating to locks.

The third person was very relaxed.

The next morning, all three were taken to the palace. And the rumor turned out to be true. The king said whoever unlocks the lock created by a master craftsman will be prime minister.  They were given knowledge bank and books on this.

These two people felt very happy thinking that it was good that they had referred to many books and then they went and looked at the lock. Once again they returned to the books and started referring to them to find out a solution to the problem, whereas the third person, looking relaxed, went there and looked at the lock and pulled it, and to his surprise, it opened. In fact, it was not locked at all. The other two were still busy referring to the books. In the meantime, the king announced that the third person had been selected as prime minister.The other two asked him, “You never referred to any book on locks, how did you unlock it?” And the king said, “The very first thing that a prime minister should do is that he should know whether the problem really exists or not, before trying to solve it.”

If you do not know whether the problem exists or not and if you try to solve it, the whole effort becomes futile. Here the problem was that the lock was not fastened. And these two persons assumed it was locked and with that assumption they tried to solve the problem. Therefore, they found that they had wasted their time.